Many gay men said it creates pressure to have sex and gives weight to the idea that you're better, and even more masculine when you're having it, and having it often.
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Many straight and gay people tend to consider sex to be "sex" only if there's penetration, said Mark, a 29 year-old living in Washington, DC.
Gender roles in non-heterosexual communities
There was no hand-holding and no kissing. Many gay men said it creates pressure to have sex and gives weight to the idea that you're better, and even more masculine when you're having it, and having it often. That not only limits the idea of what sex can be, he said, but puts unnecessary pressure on people to have a certain kind of sex. Until more recently, gay men couldn't express themselves openly in public this is still a reality in many parts of the world and the US. And it reflects a sort-of selfish projection of straight relationships onto gay ones, according to Ryan, a 28 year-old living in NYC. Douching is a simple way to reduce anxiety during sex.